Comments on: How to silence your internal dialogue http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/ Working as Expected Fri, 21 Jan 2011 23:26:54 +1100 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Michael http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-39371 Michael Fri, 21 Jan 2011 23:26:54 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-39371 Great comment, Alex. Thanks for jumping in! Great comment, Alex. Thanks for jumping in!

]]> By: Alex http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-39360 Alex Fri, 21 Jan 2011 21:03:15 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-39360 Christi - I feel the same. As I am going to write this, I can hear my head saying 'you won't be able to write down the right words to convey how much you understand her' 'write someing quick so that she will know that you feel the same' 'but it would take a lot of effort and I would have to be clever to write something short that would get the message across' Even now after writing that I think I should delete it all because the inner voice says 'she will think you're crazy and not even slightly the same'. I can identify with the feeling that once doing something that i'm absorbed in, it dissapears, however - I find it hard to settle into doing something because of the thoughts that preceed it. I'm afraid I don't have any tips but it is probably a positive step for both of us to realise that it's going on and that it is not helping. hope that helped. Alex Christi – I feel the same. As I am going to write this, I can hear my head saying ‘you won’t be able to write down the right words to convey how much you understand her’ ‘write someing quick so that she will know that you feel the same’ ‘but it would take a lot of effort and I would have to be clever to write something short that would get the message across’ Even now after writing that I think I should delete it all because the inner voice says ’she will think you’re crazy and not even slightly the same’. I can identify with the feeling that once doing something that i’m absorbed in, it dissapears, however – I find it hard to settle into doing something because of the thoughts that preceed it. I’m afraid I don’t have any tips but it is probably a positive step for both of us to realise that it’s going on and that it is not helping. hope that helped.
Alex

]]> By: IncredibleBulk http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-35386 IncredibleBulk Sat, 04 Sep 2010 05:54:29 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-35386 I almost always seem that I am deep in thought. Friends and family always seem to ask what is on my mind, but the vast majority of the time, I disappoint them by revealing what it is.. nothing. I have that internal dialogue, but it rarely ever speaks unless I will it. I guess, when it comes down to it, I am very happy I have almost full control over it, as not being able to shut other peoples real voices up when I'm tired of listening to them is bad enough; I couldn't imagine having to constantly put up with my own inner voice. I almost always seem that I am deep in thought. Friends and family always seem to ask what is on my mind, but the vast majority of the time, I disappoint them by revealing what it is.. nothing. I have that internal dialogue, but it rarely ever speaks unless I will it.

I guess, when it comes down to it, I am very happy I have almost full control over it, as not being able to shut other peoples real voices up when I’m tired of listening to them is bad enough; I couldn’t imagine having to constantly put up with my own inner voice.

]]> By: Jeremy Krenski http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-34925 Jeremy Krenski Mon, 09 Aug 2010 22:27:49 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-34925 I have tried "kwaku's" way of focusing on my breathing and have had success. Every time my mind would drift, I don't fret, just gently bring it back to breathing. Your mind will quiet if you are persistent. Also an idea from the Carlos Castaneda series I use when walking. If you slightly cross the eyes and keep them fixed just above the horizon, you can see almost a whole 180 degree view in front of you. With everything slightly blurry, nothing captures your attention thus remaining quiet seems easier for me. I have tried “kwaku’s” way of focusing on my breathing and have had success. Every time my mind would drift, I don’t fret, just gently bring it back to breathing. Your mind will quiet if you are persistent.
Also an idea from the Carlos Castaneda series I use when walking. If you slightly cross the eyes and keep them fixed just above the horizon, you can see almost a whole 180 degree view in front of you. With everything slightly blurry, nothing captures your attention thus remaining quiet seems easier for me.

]]> By: kwaku http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-30766 kwaku Tue, 26 Jan 2010 15:30:58 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-30766 to me the best way to shut your internal dialogue is to sit down don't lay down couse you might fall asleep and try to relax by focusing or concentrating on your breath. Just observe your breath for a while and you will notice that you will be relaxed within some few minutes. keep focused till you are very relaxed. at this stage it would be mush easier for any one to have full control over their IN-dialogues. the best time for practicing this is when thoughts rush up in your mind such us in the morning as soon as you are awake from from sleep since by that time you would be having many thoughts in mind such as what you dreamed about what you are going to do in the day, worries and the like. and also at nights before you sleep not when you feel tired or sleepy. or any other time in the day when thoughts rush up to you. If this is done regularly you will notice that thoughts come up less chaotic till a time it vanishes. to me the best way to shut your internal dialogue is to sit down don’t lay down couse you might fall asleep and try to relax by focusing or concentrating on your breath. Just observe your breath for a while and you will notice that you will be relaxed within some few minutes. keep focused till you are very relaxed. at this stage it would be mush easier for any one to have full control over their IN-dialogues.
the best time for practicing this is when thoughts rush up in your mind such us in the morning as soon as you are awake from from sleep since by that time you would be having many thoughts in mind such as what you dreamed about what you are going to do in the day, worries and the like. and also at nights before you sleep not when you feel tired or sleepy. or any other time in the day when thoughts rush up to you.
If this is done regularly you will notice that thoughts come up less chaotic till a time it vanishes.

]]> By: Christi http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-30198 Christi Thu, 31 Dec 2009 18:28:17 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-30198 My internal dialogue has haunted me my whole life. I'm just now starting to realize that it's probably the cause of my anxiety and stress, and has been since I was young. If I'm not at work and not totally engaged in some activity, my internal dialogue is going at it and it's all negative thoughts that I really don't even feel. I feel like my body/mind wants me to feel bad. I'm not sure how to fix all of that, but I am excited to try some of the techniques and possibly have some peace and contentment in my life, for once. Anymore advice or just knowing there are people who have the same issue as me would really help me out. Thanks My internal dialogue has haunted me my whole life. I’m just now starting to realize that it’s probably the cause of my anxiety and stress, and has been since I was young. If I’m not at work and not totally engaged in some activity, my internal dialogue is going at it and it’s all negative thoughts that I really don’t even feel. I feel like my body/mind wants me to feel bad. I’m not sure how to fix all of that, but I am excited to try some of the techniques and possibly have some peace and contentment in my life, for once. Anymore advice or just knowing there are people who have the same issue as me would really help me out. Thanks

]]> By: Jonathan http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-27074 Jonathan Tue, 13 Oct 2009 08:14:34 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-27074 As an infant I had no vocabulary so I had no Internal Dialogue. I got older then had Internal Dialogue. Now I don't. Have no history of ANY medical problems. I just silenced the voice in my head & now I can't seem to turn it back on. any help? Jonathan age:21 medical history:none As an infant I had no vocabulary so I had no Internal Dialogue. I got older then had Internal Dialogue. Now I don’t. Have no history of ANY medical problems. I just silenced the voice in my head & now I can’t seem to turn it back on. any help?

Jonathan
age:21
medical history:none

]]> By: Jani http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-24907 Jani Thu, 16 Jul 2009 10:51:01 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-24907 I have great difficulty falling asleep. Yesterday, I was visualizing myself as a house with several rooms: one for meditation, one for relaxation, one for work, one for sleeping etc. I wanted the "sleeping room" to be silent and comfortable so that I could fall asleep easier. No work there, no planning for tomorrow, no recapitulating, just happy sleepsleepsleep. Then I realized that it's far from silent. I just kept hearing my internal dialogue there. It was agonizingly boring. And it was not in sleeping room only: every "room" in my "house" was filled with endless monotonous chatter. That's when I truly realized that I really have to give up internal dialogue. I could not go on living my life listening to my commentary all the time. It was just like having a really bored and tired tourist guide pointing out things I really didn't care about. Now, the pause technique looks very promising... I have great difficulty falling asleep. Yesterday, I was visualizing myself as a house with several rooms: one for meditation, one for relaxation, one for work, one for sleeping etc. I wanted the “sleeping room” to be silent and comfortable so that I could fall asleep easier. No work there, no planning for tomorrow, no recapitulating, just happy sleepsleepsleep.

Then I realized that it’s far from silent. I just kept hearing my internal dialogue there. It was agonizingly boring. And it was not in sleeping room only: every “room” in my “house” was filled with endless monotonous chatter.

That’s when I truly realized that I really have to give up internal dialogue. I could not go on living my life listening to my commentary all the time. It was just like having a really bored and tired tourist guide pointing out things I really didn’t care about.

Now, the pause technique looks very promising…

]]> By: Michael http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-21928 Michael Fri, 29 May 2009 10:59:02 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-21928 Allen, Not at all - its quite natural actually. Allen,

Not at all – its quite natural actually.

]]> By: allen http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-21855 allen Thu, 28 May 2009 20:36:43 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-21855 very frequently i have no internal dialogue. i speak and act with out thinking. i can go for long periods of time without an internal voice. is this a kind of mental illness? very frequently i have no internal dialogue. i speak and act with out thinking. i can go for long periods of time without an internal voice. is this a kind of mental illness?

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