Comments for Tales of a Corporate Hypnotist http://www.toach.net/blog Working as Expected Fri, 21 Jan 2011 23:26:54 +1100 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 Comment on How to silence your internal dialogue by Michael http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-39371 Michael Fri, 21 Jan 2011 23:26:54 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-39371 Great comment, Alex. Thanks for jumping in! Great comment, Alex. Thanks for jumping in!

]]> Comment on How to silence your internal dialogue by Alex http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-39360 Alex Fri, 21 Jan 2011 21:03:15 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-39360 Christi - I feel the same. As I am going to write this, I can hear my head saying 'you won't be able to write down the right words to convey how much you understand her' 'write someing quick so that she will know that you feel the same' 'but it would take a lot of effort and I would have to be clever to write something short that would get the message across' Even now after writing that I think I should delete it all because the inner voice says 'she will think you're crazy and not even slightly the same'. I can identify with the feeling that once doing something that i'm absorbed in, it dissapears, however - I find it hard to settle into doing something because of the thoughts that preceed it. I'm afraid I don't have any tips but it is probably a positive step for both of us to realise that it's going on and that it is not helping. hope that helped. Alex Christi – I feel the same. As I am going to write this, I can hear my head saying ‘you won’t be able to write down the right words to convey how much you understand her’ ‘write someing quick so that she will know that you feel the same’ ‘but it would take a lot of effort and I would have to be clever to write something short that would get the message across’ Even now after writing that I think I should delete it all because the inner voice says ’she will think you’re crazy and not even slightly the same’. I can identify with the feeling that once doing something that i’m absorbed in, it dissapears, however – I find it hard to settle into doing something because of the thoughts that preceed it. I’m afraid I don’t have any tips but it is probably a positive step for both of us to realise that it’s going on and that it is not helping. hope that helped.
Alex

]]> Comment on To Er in speech by Michael http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/06/21/to-er-in-speech/comment-page-1/#comment-36641 Michael Thu, 28 Oct 2010 05:48:11 +0000 http://toach.net/blog/2006/06/21/to-er-in-speech/#comment-36641 I don't know if there is a correlation between speed of thought and speed of speech. I know there is a relationship with many people (they are unable to have internal dialogue while talking for example), but 'thought' is much more than just internal dialogue. Now there has to be some kind of relationship because I'd like to meet someone who is able to speak faster than they think (as apposed to speaking before thinking ;-) What do you think? And if english isn't your first language, and you are translating from your native toungue into english from my experience there isn't usually any 'errr' or 'um'. Instead there is simply a pause. I don’t know if there is a correlation between speed of thought and speed of speech. I know there is a relationship with many people (they are unable to have internal dialogue while talking for example), but ‘thought’ is much more than just internal dialogue. Now there has to be some kind of relationship because I’d like to meet someone who is able to speak faster than they think (as apposed to speaking before thinking ;-) What do you think?

And if english isn’t your first language, and you are translating from your native toungue into english from my experience there isn’t usually any ‘errr’ or ‘um’. Instead there is simply a pause.

]]> Comment on To Er in speech by ge http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/06/21/to-er-in-speech/comment-page-1/#comment-36540 ge Tue, 26 Oct 2010 00:53:08 +0000 http://toach.net/blog/2006/06/21/to-er-in-speech/#comment-36540 does this correlate to your speed of thought vs. speed of speech? how about if english is not your first language? mental translation effect? does this correlate to your speed of thought vs. speed of speech? how about if english is not your first language? mental translation effect?

]]> Comment on How to silence your internal dialogue by IncredibleBulk http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-35386 IncredibleBulk Sat, 04 Sep 2010 05:54:29 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-35386 I almost always seem that I am deep in thought. Friends and family always seem to ask what is on my mind, but the vast majority of the time, I disappoint them by revealing what it is.. nothing. I have that internal dialogue, but it rarely ever speaks unless I will it. I guess, when it comes down to it, I am very happy I have almost full control over it, as not being able to shut other peoples real voices up when I'm tired of listening to them is bad enough; I couldn't imagine having to constantly put up with my own inner voice. I almost always seem that I am deep in thought. Friends and family always seem to ask what is on my mind, but the vast majority of the time, I disappoint them by revealing what it is.. nothing. I have that internal dialogue, but it rarely ever speaks unless I will it.

I guess, when it comes down to it, I am very happy I have almost full control over it, as not being able to shut other peoples real voices up when I’m tired of listening to them is bad enough; I couldn’t imagine having to constantly put up with my own inner voice.

]]> Comment on How to silence your internal dialogue by Jeremy Krenski http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-34925 Jeremy Krenski Mon, 09 Aug 2010 22:27:49 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-34925 I have tried "kwaku's" way of focusing on my breathing and have had success. Every time my mind would drift, I don't fret, just gently bring it back to breathing. Your mind will quiet if you are persistent. Also an idea from the Carlos Castaneda series I use when walking. If you slightly cross the eyes and keep them fixed just above the horizon, you can see almost a whole 180 degree view in front of you. With everything slightly blurry, nothing captures your attention thus remaining quiet seems easier for me. I have tried “kwaku’s” way of focusing on my breathing and have had success. Every time my mind would drift, I don’t fret, just gently bring it back to breathing. Your mind will quiet if you are persistent.
Also an idea from the Carlos Castaneda series I use when walking. If you slightly cross the eyes and keep them fixed just above the horizon, you can see almost a whole 180 degree view in front of you. With everything slightly blurry, nothing captures your attention thus remaining quiet seems easier for me.

]]> Comment on Coaching the Uncoachable by Hari http://www.toach.net/blog/2007/06/09/coaching-the-uncoachable/comment-page-1/#comment-34159 Hari Mon, 12 Jul 2010 20:52:06 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2007/06/09/coaching-the-uncoachable/#comment-34159 I think the point about trust is a good one. Perhaps here the problem is that you're mainly talking about corporate coaching. Sometimes we need to back track with clients. Their perceived agenda is often not at all their real agenda. If you are working with their perceived agenda and not their real heart's desires - which are no doubt frustrated, then you're going to run into problems. Basically, you're going to annoy the hell out of them. Perhaps they come to you because they want to be salesman of the year. But is that so they earn a big bonus and can then buy the boat they've always dreamed of and begin to sail the seven seas? Good rapport and trust helps uncover these secret heart's desires. The other situation where I've experienced difficulties with client cooperation is when they are polar responsive. They behave in a similar way to a two year old. Anything you suggest, they want the opposite. It's up to the skill of a therapist to identify and work with this - as any parent can testify. Love the blog, best wishes, hari I think the point about trust is a good one. Perhaps here the problem is that you’re mainly talking about corporate coaching. Sometimes we need to back track with clients. Their perceived agenda is often not at all their real agenda. If you are working with their perceived agenda and not their real heart’s desires – which are no doubt frustrated, then you’re going to run into problems. Basically, you’re going to annoy the hell out of them.

Perhaps they come to you because they want to be salesman of the year. But is that so they earn a big bonus and can then buy the boat they’ve always dreamed of and begin to sail the seven seas?

Good rapport and trust helps uncover these secret heart’s desires.

The other situation where I’ve experienced difficulties with client cooperation is when they are polar responsive. They behave in a similar way to a two year old. Anything you suggest, they want the opposite. It’s up to the skill of a therapist to identify and work with this – as any parent can testify.

Love the blog,
best wishes, hari

]]> Comment on Aiming for a stress-less year? by Formula of getting things done | Siim Lepisk blog http://www.toach.net/blog/2007/01/08/aiming-for-a-stress-less-year/comment-page-1/#comment-31877 Formula of getting things done | Siim Lepisk blog Sun, 21 Mar 2010 08:19:31 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2007/01/08/aiming-for-a-stress-less-year/#comment-31877 [...] A guy called Corporate Hypnotist has some good tips on setting the goals in general in his blog. Posted in andmed, english, motivatsioon, protsess | « Get what you want Väärikus [...] [...] A guy called Corporate Hypnotist has some good tips on setting the goals in general in his blog. Posted in andmed, english, motivatsioon, protsess | « Get what you want Väärikus [...]

]]> Comment on How to silence your internal dialogue by kwaku http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-30766 kwaku Tue, 26 Jan 2010 15:30:58 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-30766 to me the best way to shut your internal dialogue is to sit down don't lay down couse you might fall asleep and try to relax by focusing or concentrating on your breath. Just observe your breath for a while and you will notice that you will be relaxed within some few minutes. keep focused till you are very relaxed. at this stage it would be mush easier for any one to have full control over their IN-dialogues. the best time for practicing this is when thoughts rush up in your mind such us in the morning as soon as you are awake from from sleep since by that time you would be having many thoughts in mind such as what you dreamed about what you are going to do in the day, worries and the like. and also at nights before you sleep not when you feel tired or sleepy. or any other time in the day when thoughts rush up to you. If this is done regularly you will notice that thoughts come up less chaotic till a time it vanishes. to me the best way to shut your internal dialogue is to sit down don’t lay down couse you might fall asleep and try to relax by focusing or concentrating on your breath. Just observe your breath for a while and you will notice that you will be relaxed within some few minutes. keep focused till you are very relaxed. at this stage it would be mush easier for any one to have full control over their IN-dialogues.
the best time for practicing this is when thoughts rush up in your mind such us in the morning as soon as you are awake from from sleep since by that time you would be having many thoughts in mind such as what you dreamed about what you are going to do in the day, worries and the like. and also at nights before you sleep not when you feel tired or sleepy. or any other time in the day when thoughts rush up to you.
If this is done regularly you will notice that thoughts come up less chaotic till a time it vanishes.

]]> Comment on How to silence your internal dialogue by Christi http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/11/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/comment-page-1/#comment-30198 Christi Thu, 31 Dec 2009 18:28:17 +0000 http://www.toach.net/blog/2006/12/13/how-to-silence-your-internal-dialogue/#comment-30198 My internal dialogue has haunted me my whole life. I'm just now starting to realize that it's probably the cause of my anxiety and stress, and has been since I was young. If I'm not at work and not totally engaged in some activity, my internal dialogue is going at it and it's all negative thoughts that I really don't even feel. I feel like my body/mind wants me to feel bad. I'm not sure how to fix all of that, but I am excited to try some of the techniques and possibly have some peace and contentment in my life, for once. Anymore advice or just knowing there are people who have the same issue as me would really help me out. Thanks My internal dialogue has haunted me my whole life. I’m just now starting to realize that it’s probably the cause of my anxiety and stress, and has been since I was young. If I’m not at work and not totally engaged in some activity, my internal dialogue is going at it and it’s all negative thoughts that I really don’t even feel. I feel like my body/mind wants me to feel bad. I’m not sure how to fix all of that, but I am excited to try some of the techniques and possibly have some peace and contentment in my life, for once. Anymore advice or just knowing there are people who have the same issue as me would really help me out. Thanks

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